Each chapter of our ebook 10 Key Steps to Building Self-Esteem in Difficult Times is one of 10 key points to building self-esteem, including taking care of the physical, mental and spiritual aspects of your life. If you follow these steps and really put them to work, you will discover an amazing transformation toward a life of self-esteem.
Each afternoon hundreds of children make the long car drive to the tiny studio, their portal to ballet’s magical world.
The company was founded by Mario Nugara, a professional ballet dancer who wanted to create a ballet academy offering classes for the children of South Los Angeles.
Thinking about esteem in our lives and in general we recognize how powerful our choice of words can be. Just think about how you feel when somebody speaks to you with harsh words or in an ordering manner. It makes you feel closed and your chest gets tight.
How do you express esteem toward another person? You look for positive words because esteem means uplifting, encouraging and acknowledging. You only can do that with positive words.
We can suppress our feelings by denying them and we can hide our feelings toward others. Both make us unhappy.
In a world where esteem isn’t tangible on a daily basis it may be difficult to show your feelings.
Only esteem encourages us to show our feelings freely because the esteem we get is meant for our whole being including our feelings.
On June 17, 1885 the Statue of Liberty arrived in New York Harbor. The meaning of “Lady Liberty” is known: it’s a symbol for freedom and democracy and a symbol for welcoming arriving immigrants. We could say in other words that the Statue of Liberty is a sign of esteem.
Do you know that the Statue of Liberty has an older sister? Yes, it’s true. The sister is smaller than Lady Liberty and stands in Jardin du Luxembourg in Paris. The French sculptor Frédéric Bartholdi created in 1870 a first statue, a smaller sculpture which should have been given to the United States as gift for the Centennial of the American Declaration of Independence. Due to various reasons it didn’t happen, and that’s why this sculpture stayed in France to this day.
This feeling often holds people with a low self-esteem back from asking questions. They fear that their self-esteem will be judged by others.
The reality is just the opposite. A Chinese proverb says it succinctly: “He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.’
Asking isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign curiosity and a willingness to learn.
Joshua Bell, one of the finest classical musicians in the world, placed himself against a wall in a metro station in Washington.
He took his most valuable Stradivari violin and started to play some of the most elegant music ever written.
Read what happened then!
Monty Python received and still receives this kind of esteem. At the Edinburgh Festival 2009 for example their sketches were performed by young comedians.
The famous Parrot Sketch was first performed by the Monty Python team many years ago. “This is an ex-parrot” goes the famous sentence of John Cleese’s complaint to Michael Palin for selling a stuffed pet.
What happens when we’re angry? Anger is a normal human expression of a feeling of displeasure. Anger can arise out of sadness or frustration. We even have bodily reactions of muscle tension and increased heart rate.
When we integrate esteem into our daily life it doesn’t mean that we won’t feel any anger anymore. But when we express our anger appropriately we deal with it in a healthy way. This is one way esteem helps us in dealing properly with anger.
But esteem goes further. When we live esteem we live patience and understanding toward others and ourselves. This leads us to an understanding of the mechanism of anger.
They can have a high self-esteem, knowing themselves as a calm and introverted character and accepting themselves as they are.
Being shy isn’t necessarily a sign of low self-esteem. Shy people with a healthy self-esteem know that already.
But what about all the others that suffer with their shyness?
We don’t see the years of hard work behind their talent; the intense singing exercises, how much care they have to give their precious voice and the slow, gradual development of their instrument.
We just enjoy the uplifting music and their amazing voices.
Wouldn’t it be great to give esteem directly to these artists to show that their efforts are precious?