Self-esteem and the inner monologue

Eckart Tolle Stillness speaksPeople can speak nonstop for hours – with themselves.  They speak with themselves even when they are working, engaged in athletics or just playing around.  There is almost no moment without this inner monologue.

Sometimes they become aware of their inner voice and listen to its endless stream of words.  Most often though they unconsciously turn daily problems over and over in their mind.

Are these inner monologues known to you?

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An esteemful personality: Charlie Chaplin

Charlie ChaplinCharlie Chaplin may have been the ultimate cinematic comedian.  In the last three quarters of a century his work lifted the spirits of countless people around the world.

But Chaplin was more than just a clown.   His words were thoughtful and genuine and worth listening to.  He used the medium of film to speak about important human topics.

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When the wind of change blows …

Change by Jeffrey A. KottlerThere is an ancient Chinese proverb that goes: “When the wind of change blows, some people build walls, others build windmills.”

Change can cause people to become frightened.  They want to stay with what’s known even when it’s rendered obsolete.

Life teaches us that the only constant is change.  We make changes all the time, some big and some small.  The big changes may be frightening because they mean that life will never be exactly the same.

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Are you a judgment-fearing person?

self-esteemI think every person is in a way or in some parts of their lives judgment-fearing. What does that mean?

It means that you are fearing what others are thinking about you. People with high self-esteem know that they are unique, that there is no way they could be compared to anybody else. Your uniqueness expresses itself also in the certainty that nobody outside yourself can really know who you are. It doesn’t matter to them what others think about them.

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Self-esteem means self-respect

self-respectSometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.

Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.

Self-esteem or self-respect means knowing that you are equal to every other being on the planet. You are unique as a very valuable personality. You can’t compare yourself to anybody else. There is no other person like you.

Exercise for your self-esteem

Penn State researchers found that people’s satisfaction with life was higher on days when they exercised more than usual. So extending your normal exercise routine by a few minutes may be the solution how to boost your self-esteem.

Satisfaction with life is just another expression why a high self-esteem is so important. Are you satisfied with your life? If not, this could be your solution.

“We found that people’s satisfaction with life was directly impacted by their daily physical activity,” said Jaclyn Maher, graduate student in kinesiology. “The findings reinforce the idea that physical activity is a health behavior with important consequences for daily well-being and should be considered when developing national policies to enhance satisfaction with life.”

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“Emerging adults are going through a lot of changes; they are leaving home for the first time and attending college or starting jobs,” said Maher. “As a result, their satisfaction with life can plummet.”

“Shifts in depression, anxiety and stress would be expected to influence a person’s satisfaction with life at any given point in time,” said David Conroy, professor of kinesiology. “In addition, fatigue can be a barrier to engaging in physical activity, and a high Body Mass Index associated with being overweight may cause a person to be less satisfied in a variety of ways.”

The researchers were able to determine that the amount of physical activity a person undertakes in a particular day directly influences his or her satisfaction with life. Specifically, the team found that by exercising just a little more than usual a person can significantly improve his or her satisfaction with life.

Happiness without TV

A new study by sociologists at the University of Maryland concludes that unhappy people watch more TV, while people who describe themselves as “very happy” spend more time reading and socializing.

reading a book“TV doesn’t really seem to satisfy people over the long haul the way that social involvement or reading a newspaper does,” says University of Maryland sociologist John P. Robinson, the study co-author and a pioneer in time use studies. “It’s more passive and may provide escape – especially when the news is as depressing as the economy itself. The data suggest to us that the TV habit may offer short-run pleasure at the expense of long-term malaise.”

There are doubtlessly more and more people living without TV and finding themselves happier and with greater self-esteem than ever.

Being an experience shopper makes one happy

San Francisco State University psychologists have found that buying life experiences makes people happier than buying possessions. What does that mean “buying life experiences”? It means buying concert tickets or a weekend away, rather than hitting the mall for material items.

concert“We know that being an ‘experience shopper’ is linked to greater well being,” said Howell, whose 2009 paper on purchasing experiences challenged the adage that money can’t buy happiness. He suggests it could be easier to change your spending habits than your personality traits. “Even for people who naturally find themselves drawn to material purchases, our results suggest that getting more of a balance between traditional purchases and those that provide you with an experience could lead to greater life satisfaction and well being.”

What do you think about this idea?

Esteem and congratulations to the 8 Design Lab Finalists

Electrolux Design LabEstablished in 2003, Electrolux Design Lab is a global design competition open to undergraduate and graduate design students who are invited to present innovative ideas for future households.

Every year Electrolux challenges design students all over the world. The challenge is to create a concept that is relevant to the time and raises questions about what design will be like in the future. The brief for 2013 calls for innovative ideas for urbanization – Social Cooking, Natural Air and Effortless Cleaning.

From more than 1700 submissions by students all over the world they’re now down to these 8 Finalists.

The Jury will choose the winning concept October 16 in Stockholm, Sweden. Now is your chance to vote for People’s Choice!