“Let not your mind run on what you lack as much as on what you have already. Among what you have already chose the best and then consider how eagerly you would have looked for it if you hadn’t it.”
I think every person is in a way or in some parts of their lives judgment-fearing. What does that mean?
It means that you are fearing what others are thinking about you. People with high self-esteem know that they are unique, that there is no way they could be compared to anybody else. Your uniqueness expresses itself also in the certainty that nobody outside yourself can really know who you are. It doesn’t matter to them what others think about them.
So, how can you avoid being judgment-fearing? You can learn to be yourself, to know who you are and what unique character you have.
Here you find 7 ways to stop fearing what others think of yourself.
Sometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.
Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.
Self-esteem or self-respect means knowing that you are equal to every other being on the planet. You are unique as a very valuable personality. You can’t compare yourself to anybody else. There is no other person like you.
Penn State researchers found that people’s satisfaction with life was higher on days when they exercised more than usual. So extending your normal exercise routine by a few minutes may be the solution how to boost your self-esteem.
Satisfaction with life is just another expression why a high self-esteem is so important. Are you satisfied with your life? If not, this could be your solution.
“We found that people’s satisfaction with life was directly impacted by their daily physical activity,” said Jaclyn Maher, graduate student in kinesiology. “The findings reinforce the idea that physical activity is a health behavior with important consequences for daily well-being and should be considered when developing national policies to enhance satisfaction with life.”
“Emerging adults are going through a lot of changes; they are leaving home for the first time and attending college or starting jobs,” said Maher. “As a result, their satisfaction with life can plummet.”
“Shifts in depression, anxiety and stress would be expected to influence a person’s satisfaction with life at any given point in time,” said David Conroy, professor of kinesiology. “In addition, fatigue can be a barrier to engaging in physical activity, and a high Body Mass Index associated with being overweight may cause a person to be less satisfied in a variety of ways.”
The researchers were able to determine that the amount of physical activity a person undertakes in a particular day directly influences his or her satisfaction with life. Specifically, the team found that by exercising just a little more than usual a person can significantly improve his or her satisfaction with life.
A new study by sociologists at the University of Maryland concludes that unhappy people watch more TV, while people who describe themselves as “very happy” spend more time reading and socializing.
“TV doesn’t really seem to satisfy people over the long haul the way that social involvement or reading a newspaper does,” says University of Maryland sociologist John P. Robinson, the study co-author and a pioneer in time use studies. “It’s more passive and may provide escape – especially when the news is as depressing as the economy itself. The data suggest to us that the TV habit may offer short-run pleasure at the expense of long-term malaise.”
There are doubtlessly more and more people living without TV and finding themselves happier and with greater self-esteem than ever.
There is no doubt that being creative can boost self-esteem. Unfortunately with the changes in the education system, many art programs are being cut from public schools.
Attendance Record, located in Austin TX, provides a safe space where students are encouraged to express themselves creatively through songwriting and art. They focus on building a community of learners where everyone involved can discover something unique about themselves.
Attendance Records is dedicated to bringing creativity back into schools by connecting teachers and students with local writers, artists and musicians. By providing students with the opportunity to design, write and produce their own album, students will build confidence skills that will result in discovering what makes them unique.
A great idea helping boost self-esteem in students.
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Actually, no. There are huge differences between self-esteem and narcissism.
Self-esteem means realizing the true value of yourself. You can do that by knowing that your are special as special as everybody else. Not two people on the world are the same. Everybody is unique in his personality, in his talents and expressions. Having a healthy self-esteem means to acknowledge this fact. You know your value, your talents, your uniqueness in a very healthy way.
Narcissism on the other hand is all about praising oneself over just everything one does or says. Narcissism basically refers to the thought of being superior.
Narcissism needs comparisons for its growth and competition to prove itself while self-esteem knows that comparisons are simply not possible and competitions are not necessary in order to find out one’s uniqueness.
This might sound a little out there “Learn to tolerate your self-esteem”, but it actually nails it.
I recently read this post of Mike Bundrant and found that it’s one of the best about self-esteem I’ve read in a long time. This is what he essentially said. For more details click on the link.
Low self-esteem is usually due to a psychological attachment to being perceived in a negative light. By constantly seeing you in a negative light you learned a powerful lesson – that your existence is a negative.
The real problem though lies in the fact that as child you trusted the opinion of others and now you continue to trust the judgments of others. At this point, the black hole of negativity in your psyche is quite powerful and you may have a very difficult time shaking the emotional attachment to all the negativity.
So seeing this what can you do? The key is to realize that your tendency to do things that prove your low self-esteem are based on a false indoctrination, one that you continue to give yourself in the present.
One of the steps Mike Bundrant is speaking of is to learn to tolerate the self-esteem. Happiness and self-respect take some getting used to so that you can trust them. Patience and tolerance for success are the key points in order to create positive psychological attachments.