Savoir vivre is a French expression which means being casual in dealing with other people and with life situations.
We can choose to live savoir vivre each day. We can be querulous and make other people unhappy. Or we can be friendly and make others smile because they feel accepted.
Making other people happy is a sign that we use esteem as basis of our savoir vivre.
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The easiest way to find out how esteem works is when we’re relaxed.
We relax in different ways. We’re tempted to say there are as many ways to relax as there are people. However we relax it’s a moment we don’t feel the need for fighting, defending, arguing or being generally on the alert.
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It started as a Tent City founded for homeless people and grew into a permanent neighborhood called Dignity Village. After conducting elections, Dignity Village even has their own administrative and legislative branches of government. The name tells it all: Dignity Village is a place that gives dignity back to people who’ve lost their jobs and homes.
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Self-esteem consists of three elements: unconditional love, unconditional worth and growth This means a deep, quiet inner security that is not easily shaken under duress or after a disappointing performance. Individuals with healthy self-esteem are humble and recognize all people’s worth, according to Glenn R. Schiraldi, Ph.D., author of The Self-Esteem Workbook.
His good news are that there are these successful strategies for strengthening self-esteem.
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This might sound a little out there “Learn to tolerate your self-esteem”, but it actually nails it.
Low self-esteem is usually due to a psychological attachment to being perceived in a negative light. By constantly seeing you in a negative light you learned a powerful lesson – that your existence is a negative.
The real problem though lies in the fact that as child you trusted the opinion of others and now you continue to trust the judgments of others. At this point, the black hole of negativity in your psyche is quite powerful and you may have a very difficult time shaking the emotional attachment to all the negativity.
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Did you ever watch yourself when you speak about others? The kind of how you speak about others and how you see others reveals more about yourself than about the persons.
How positively you see others is linked to how happy, kind-hearted and emotionally stable you are. A person’s tendency to describe others in positive terms is an important indicator of the positivity of the person’s own personality traits.
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Happiness is a gift. Happiness is also a matter of personal choice. What’s happening to us in the outside world is often an inside job.
We can approach daily circumstances with an attitude of our choosing. When esteem is an important part of our life we generally choose to be joyful. This joyful inner attitude will attract the outward experience of happiness. Therefore the pursuit of happiness is actually an inward journey. It’s up to us to keep our attitude joyful by living esteem daily. Our inner joy leads to happiness for us and for other people.
Who else than C.G. Jung can be consulted to this theme!
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There are as many life purposes as people on earth. But there is only one life purpose which we could call to be universally human: it’s happiness.
This little story explains it:
When I was 5 years old, my mom always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment and I told them they didn’t understand life.
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Sometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.
Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.
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We might think that our actions in life are just empty, a failure. We might think that only the goal we have in mind is important and the steps leading us toward this goal are just obstacles to overcome.
Nisargadatta Maharaj (“I Am That“) has an esteemful answer to these concerns. Just listen and hear.
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