There is an important difference between between being lonely and being alone which is defined by the strength of our self-esteem.
We can’t be lonely with a high self-esteem.
Dr. Wayne Dyer expressed it this way: “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with”.
A high self-esteem makes us content with ourselves. Knowing and liking ourselves allows us to be alone without feeling lonely.
About the Art of Being Alone: How to overcome loneliness and the fear of being alone while learning to love yourself
- Author: Janett Menzel
- Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (July 15, 2017)
- Paperback, also available as ebook
- 190 pages
Do you constantly need people to be around you to feel fulfilled and satisfied? Do you feel empty when you have no one who is with you? Do you look for partners and lovers to feel loved, wanted and “enough” although they later turn out to be the wrong choice? Are you constantly waiting for partners who don’t love you as much as you love them, hoping that they will be ready for a committed relationship one day? Then you might attract them unconsciously because deep down you are afraid of being alone. This book is dedicated to all those who want to understand their fear of being alone and their loneliness and transform it into self-love. The author Janett Menzel takes the reader along on a journey of discovery: what type you are, where the fear and depressive emotions come from, what they want to say to you and how you can overcome them with self-recognition. However, instead of fighting it, she suggests examining it carefully, understanding the emptiness and lesson, and, finally, transforming it. With over 70 strategies and reinventions of your own character and life, the author helps the readers to expose and decouple old belief systems, recognize dependencies, and resolve blockades.
I’m very moved by this book. Obviously Janett took a lot of time and compassion to create this well organized information. I now understand what the author describes my situation as being a “waiting person”. This has been very informative for me. I am now able to release this behavior.
I liked the book pretty much and enjoyed reading it. It contains many very true assumptions about solitude and the fear of being alone and delivers many new insights. I especially loved all the exercises (like a written coaching actually) and thought a lot about my very surprising answers. What I really liked were her ideas (around 50) at the end of the book what one could do when feeling lonely and anxious. I did not regret buying it and absolutely recommend reading it!
This book is powerful. A well written book exploring the topic of loneliness. It goes into strategies of how to overcome it and is well written and clear.