Living esteem requires honesty and integrity. Being a person of integrity means that we do what we say. This makes other people believe in us because our integrity reveals our honesty.
Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius said: “If it is not right do not do it, if it is not true do not say it.” We can’t express better the close connection between honesty and integrity.
Whenever we express esteem toward somebody we do it with honesty, otherwise it wouldn’t be genuine esteem. When people give esteem but they don’t live it themselves the significance of their gesture fades away. We can’t believe that their sign of esteem is true and honest.
The connection between esteem, honesty and integrity is strong and mutual. None of them can truly exist without the others. Isn’t this a great motivation to integrate esteem in your daily life!
Integrity: The Courage to Meet the Demands of Reality
- Author: Henry Cloud
- Publisher: HarperBusiness; Reprint edition (June 2, 2009)
- Paperback, also available as Hardcover and ebook
- 304 pages
Integrity—more than simple honesty, it’s the key to success. A person with integrity has the ability to pull everything together, to make it all happen no matter how challenging the circumstances. In Integrity, Dr. Cloud explores the six qualities of character that define integrity, and how people with integrity: Are able to connect with others and build trust. Are oriented toward reality. Finish well. Embrace the negative. Are oriented toward increase. Have an understanding of the transcendent. Integrity is not something that you either have or don’t, but instead is an exciting growth path that all of us can engage in and enjoy.
Dr. Cloud writes a very frank and helpful analysis of what it takes to be a person of integrity. Honesty and ethics come to mind when one thinks of integrity, but his definition is much broader. He is talking about how to be a fully integrated person in all aspects of life. If you are tired of kidding yourself and know you need changes in your life to be more of the person you’d like to become, this will be a good book for you.
The missing ingredient that takes you from just the talented and successful to greatness is Integrity. Something that is sadly missing in the 21st century at lots of levels. We would do well to heed the advice of Dr. Cloud. Evaluate yourself. A great read and very inspiring.
Brilliant book, articulating several ideas that we as a 21st century society seems to have lost in recent times. This booked helped me classify several ‘character traits’ that is recognized in society, but we often lack a good vocabulary to express our thoughts surrounding ‘character’. Highly recommended reading!