Low self-esteem is usually due to a psychological attachment to being perceived in a negative light. By constantly seeing you in a negative light you learned a powerful lesson – that your existence is a negative.
The real problem though lies in the fact that as child you trusted the opinion of others and now you continue to trust the judgments of others. At this point, the black hole of negativity in your psyche is quite powerful and you may have a very difficult time shaking the emotional attachment to all the negativity.
So seeing this what can you do? The key is to realize that your tendency to do things that prove your low self-esteem are based on a false indoctrination, one that you continue to give yourself in the present.
So it is important to learn to tolerate the self-esteem. Happiness and self-respect take some getting used to so that you can trust them. Patience and tolerance for success are the key points in order to create positive psychological attachments.
The author Brené Brown puts it into these words: The Gifts of Imperfection. It’s a great book, I highly recommend it.
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
- Author: Brené Brown
- Publisher: Hazelden Publishing; 1 edition, August 27, 2010
- Paperback, also available as ebook
- 160 pages
Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past twelve years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. In her ten guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough,” and to go to bed at night thinking, “Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.”
This book makes us think and think again of when was the last time we looked in the mirror and evaluated how we contributed to the issues of our circumstances. However, it also teaches us how to look into our circumstances with a different set of lens and make better choices.
Loved this book – author really spoke to me in meaningful ways. Well put together!
I will be adding this book to my “Annual Read” list, as well as to my “Great Gift Ideas” list. It is a winner all around. Clear, simple language, begins to feel like a conversation with a friend. A wise and loving friend. This book truly delivers and lives up to it’s title.