Blaming others for low self-esteem is like handing over control of ourselves.
Adult human beings are autonomic, independent and ultimately self-responsible. Nobody else is living our life.
As it’s taken for granted that we accept our responsibility when we encounter success and happiness we should do the same when we encounter frustration or misfortune.
Our self-esteem is influenced by our response to both success and misfortune. Only this – our answer – is to blame for low self-esteem.
This is great news! It means that we are capable of change. We can change our answers to life situations and therefore influence our self-esteem.




