We sabotage ourselves when we procrastinate for example. We get in our own way – sometimes more and sometimes less subtle. We also could call it our inner critical voice that keeps us from having a good self-esteem.
Sometimes it is like that, we are our worst enemies keeping our self-esteem low and defeat ourselves. What can we do?
We can look at what self-esteem does to us. Self-esteem makes us feel that we deserve all the good things in life. This behavior keeps our motivation high to go after more of those good things and moments.
Also what we can do is to identify our self-sabotaging thoughts and then to act against them. It’s our conscious choice of not longer falling victim to that critical inner voice that limits us and hurts us in our lives.
Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
- Authors: Marc Goulston, Philip Goldberg
- Publisher: TarcherPerigee; Reissue edition (February 1, 1996)
- Paperback, also available as Hardcover and ebook
- 175 pages
Practical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more.
This is another “common sense” book, one we shouldn’t have to read because we should have everything between the covers dialed in, but for a number of reasons, we don’t. It’s a laundry list of things you should or should not do. Some are pretty obvious (“Quitting Too Soon,” “Letting Others Control Your Life”), while others are more subtle and are probably doing more damage than you realize because they have burrowed so deep (“Acting Too Needy,” “Talking When Nobody’s Listening”). See, the secret is to catch yourself in the act of doing these things and then put in the fix WITHOUT beating yourself up for it. That’s how this book can help you. Highly recommended.
By making the examples personal and relatable, the author shows you that each person can handle things in their own way and still attain a good outcome. Sometimes all you need is a nudge, and this book provides nudges in the all the right directions.
I loved this book! In a way, it honestly changed my life after reading it. It gave me insight on certain things I never even thought about before. I liked how it gave examples of real life scenarios and simple ways to help fix the issues or how to see the situation in a different light. I totally would recommend this book to anyone who needs a little help moving in the right direction in life.