Stress is one of the factors in life that can push us off balance. Sometimes we have no control over the stress in our life, such as the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, an illness or other external problems.
But often our stress is self-created through our inner critic. One of the many stresses of modern life is envy. Another is fear.
These two causes of stress are “self-made” because we are the ones who allow feelings of envy and fear into our life. This means the responsibility is on us to change these feelings and eliminate the causes of this stress without falling into the trap of inner criticism.
When we integrate esteem in our lives we realize the destructive consequences of stress. Living esteem makes us want to live the opposite of envy and fear – emotional open-mindedness and courage.
Esteem helps us to recognize stress and to learn how to handle it in a healthy way. At the same time esteem helps us to prevent stress by avoiding destructive habits.
Give Yourself a Break: Turning Your Inner Critic into a Compassionate
- Author: Kim Frederickson
- Publisher: Revell (July 7, 2015)
- Paperback, also available as ebook
- 192 pages
Many people are used to showing compassion to others. What many of us have trouble with is showing that same compassion to ourselves. Too often we say things to ourselves that we would never say to a friend. All this negative self-talk can have a devastating effect on our lives. Grounding her advice in the Bible, she offers practical steps, specific exercises, and compassionate words to say in order to build a loving relationship with ourselves. Through inspiring stories of transformation, she helps us learn to show ourselves the kind of grace and understanding we offer to others–and to change our relationships, our outlook on life, and our view of ourselves in the process.
The book is well-written and clear on being gentle with yourself as you would respond to a friend. I like the many examples to show how to apply the new approach to one’s life. This new perspective will help people to not stay stuck and repeat behavior that does not work well.
Great resource for any person that is their own hardest critic. This book provides a detailed understanding of why your internal self critical thoughts won’t let go of mistakes. There are well organized and practical steps to change the lifelong pattern of being your own worst enemy.
This book was very helpful and practical for me. Could definitely relate with the author. Was highly anticipating going through this book, and after completing it, was not disappointed! I believe anyone can find something to grab onto from this book and run with that would be helpful.