Some people say that self-esteem is a form of being self-centered.
There is one big difference between self-esteem and selfishness. It’s empathy.
Empathy is the connection between us and others because it makes us interested in and respectful toward others. When we have genuine self-esteem we have empathy.
Selfishness on the other hand is self-centered and not interested in others. Selfishness doesn’t know empathy.
This is the essential difference between self-esteem and selfishness: having or not having empathy.
Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential–and Endangered
- Authors: Bruce D. Perry, Maia Szalavitz
- Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks; Reprint edition (April 5, 2011)
- Paperback, also available as Hardcover and ebook
- 384 pages
Born for Love is the definitive book on empathy. Renowned psychiatrist Bruce Perry has appeared as an expert in this hot area of neuroscience, and has been cited). He and co-writer Maia Szalavitz explore empathy’s startling importance in human evolution and its significance for our children and our society.
Fantastic explanation of our human relations, I love this book, from genetics ,family connections,social interaction and more how can we make it better and enjoy our life. This book is a starter in a new direction.
I absolutely loved this book. It was written well, always engaged the reader and was never too slow. I enjoy the authors’ style, sense of humor and flow. They had a very good balance of introducing examples/case studies that demonstrated the importance of empathy, and explaining the science and inner workings behind it. This is best, most interesting psychology book I’ve read in a long time. I would recommend and even demand that everyone who can read it does so.
This is a much needed book for all of our society today. Very readable and full of great new information about brain theory, recent sociological studies, ethics, etc.. I can’t say enough about it and have been telling everyone I know to read it.