He defined with this statement self-actualizing people. Self-actualization was first coined by Abraham Maslow. He explained it like this: “A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be at peace with himself. What a man can be, he must be. This is the need we may call self-actualization … It refers to man’s desire for fulfillment, namely to the tendency for him to become actually in what he is potentially: to become everything that one is capable of becoming …”
We speak about self-esteem, self-confidence, self-image, but what does “Self” really mean?
Recently I read some thoughts about the Self from Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. who explains the self referring of “how you judge yourself, how you think others judge you, how you imagine and think about your body, and what you believe others think of you. In a matter of speaking, the self refers to “what it’s like to be you.”
The self is a mental model you have of yourself, an idea, a concept or way of thinking.”
Just because history lies deep in the past doesn’t mean it should be forgotten. The history of our country and our heritage is a great example.
One esteemful approach is respect toward our ancestors and their work. One doesn’t have to look far to find great examples of thought and action.
Another esteemful approach is to learn of the mistakes of history in order to not repeat them.
Self-seeking is always looking for ones own advantage. A self-seeking person acts with the ulterior motives of the own profit. There is a very thin line between self-seeking and ordinary self interest.
We need to have a healthy interest in ourselves. When self interest is linked with esteem it can’t act self-centered.
Esteem is the opposite of self-seeking. Esteem and being self-centered never work together. When we give esteem to somebody we don’t do it with the ulterior motives of getting esteem for ourselves. If we did it with selfish motives the esteem wouldn’t be authentic and wouldn’t be felt as genuine by the other person.
Voltaire said once: “Esteem is a wonderful thing, It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”
Probably you’ve already had the experience that you felt a compliment you gave coming back to you. You almost feel as if you were the one being acknowledged. This is a wonderful effect that esteem has on people.
Giving genuine and honest appreciation to somebody fills us with pride and happiness. We feel as acknowledged as the recipient of our esteem and this makes us happy.
Did you know that there are animals living on the island of Madagascar which you won’t find anywhere else in the world?
92% of its reptiles and 80% of its plants are found nowhere else.
Madagascar’s rich ecosystem and extraordinary wildlife will now be highly protected according to a plea from the World Wildlife Fund.
Here’s the background story.
Giving a gift can be done in one of two ways: we can give it freely or we can give it with expectations of thankfulness or even a gift in return.
Christmas for many people is the tradition of giving gifts with expectations.
But there are examples of the other way of giving. Giving free-heartedly without any expectations and conditions.
Tying on my earlier post about Intuition as inner guide I like to emphasize today how important it is to follow our intuition.
Intuition is like a magic path helping us to live in the moment, here and now.
I found this great book by Florence Scovel Shinn about Intuition and its magic path.
“The genius of clowning is transforming the little, everyday annoyances, not only overcoming, but actually transforming them into something strange and terrific … it is the power to extract mirth for millions out of nothing and less than nothing.”
These are the words of Swiss born Karl Adrien Wettach (Jan. 10, 1880 – July 14, 1959) known as Grock, the clown. Charlie Chaplin met him in 1931 and said to him: “If I’m the greatest comedian on-screen then you’re the greatest comedian on-stage.”
Grock received esteem throughout his life and even after his death when he was inducted into the Clown Hall of Fame in 1992.
Born on August 31, 1870 young Maria grew up dreaming of becoming a physician. At those times a woman becoming a doctor was an impossible wish. Not a single female student studied medicine. But Maria Montessori had a strong will. She carefully chose to study natural sciences, which enabled her in later years to get accepted into medical school in Rome.
Maria was the first woman in Italy to receive a medical degree.