A study made by University Michigan social psychologist Ethan Kross confirms that Facebook use predicts decline in happiness. Ethan Kross says: “On the surface, Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection. But rather than enhance well-being, we found that Facebook use predicts the opposite result—it undermines it.”
We can approach daily circumstances with an attitude of our choosing. When esteem is an important part of our life we generally choose to be joyful. This joyful inner attitude will attract the outward experience of happiness. Therefore the pursuit of happiness is actually an inward journey. It’s up to us to keep our attitude joyful by living esteem daily. Our inner joy leads to happiness for us and for other people.
Who else than C.G. Jung can be consulted to this theme!
This little story explains it:
When I was 5 years old, my mom always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment and I told them they didn’t understand life.
Honest esteem is as unconditional as love. It can be difficult to write what unconditional love is about. Sometimes a little story can help to cast light on what unconditional love is such as this short story written by Jalāl ad-Dīn Muḥammad Balkhī. He is also known to the English-speaking world simply as Rumi, a Sufi mystic, Muslim poet, jurist and theologian (1207-1273):
Sometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.
Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.
We might think that our actions in life are just empty, a failure. We might think that only the goal we have in mind is important and the steps leading us toward this goal are just obstacles to overcome.
Nisargadatta Maharaj (“I Am That“) has an esteemful answer to these concerns. Just listen and hear.
Actually, no. There are huge differences between self-esteem and narcissism.
Self-esteem means realizing the true value of yourself. You can do that by knowing that your are special as special as everybody else. Not two people on the world are the same. Everybody is unique in his personality, in his talents and expressions. Having a healthy self-esteem means to acknowledge this fact. You know your value, your talents, your uniqueness in a very healthy way.
Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.
People can speak nonstop for hours – with themselves. They speak with themselves even when they are working, engaged in athletics or just playing around. There is almost no moment without this inner monologue.
Sometimes they become aware of their inner voice and listen to its endless stream of words. Most often though they unconsciously turn daily problems over and over in their mind.
Are these inner monologues known to you?
But Chaplin was more than just a clown. His words were thoughtful and genuine and worth listening to. He used the medium of film to speak about important human topics.