Facebook lowers self-esteem and well-being

Facebook LogoutI mean who is really surprised by the impact of Facebook on self-esteem? In Europe the activities in Facebook are declining, which is widely discussed in books, ebooks and articles.

A study made by University Michigan social psychologist Ethan Kross confirms that Facebook use predicts decline in happiness. Ethan Kross says: “On the surface, Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection. But rather than enhance well-being, we found that Facebook use predicts the opposite result—it undermines it.”

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Esteem and happiness

C.G. JungHappiness is a gift.  Happiness is also a matter of personal choice. What’s happening to us in the outside world is often an inside job.

We can approach daily circumstances with an attitude of our choosing.  When esteem is an important part of our life we generally choose to be joyful.  This joyful inner attitude will attract the outward experience of happiness. Therefore the pursuit of happiness is actually an inward journey.  It’s up to us to keep our attitude joyful by living esteem daily. Our inner joy leads to happiness for us and for other people.

Who else than C.G. Jung can be consulted to this theme!

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An esteemful life purpose

Finding your PurposeThere are as many life purposes as people on earth.  But there is only one life purpose which we could call to be universally human: it’s happiness.

This little story explains it:

When I was 5 years old, my mom always told me that happiness was the key to life.  When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I wrote down “happy”.  They told me I didn’t understand the assignment and I told them they didn’t understand life.

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Unconditional esteem – unconditional love

The Essential Rumi

Honest esteem is as unconditional as love. It can be difficult to write what  unconditional love is about. Sometimes a little story can help to cast light on what unconditional love is such as this short story written by Jalāl ad-Dīn Muḥammad Balkhī. He is also  known to the English-speaking world simply as Rumi, a Sufi mystic, Muslim poet, jurist and theologian (1207-1273):

 

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Self-esteem means self-respect

self respectSometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.

Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.

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Are self-esteem and narcissism the same?

self-esteem and narcissism

Actually, no. There are huge differences between self-esteem and narcissism.

Self-esteem means realizing the true value of yourself. You can do that by knowing that your are special as special as everybody else. Not two people on the world are the same. Everybody is unique in his personality, in his talents and expressions. Having a healthy self-esteem means to acknowledge this fact. You know your value, your talents, your uniqueness in a very healthy way.

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Self-esteem and the inner monologue

Eckart Tolle Stillness speaksPeople can speak nonstop for hours – with themselves.  They speak with themselves even when they are working, engaged in athletics or just playing around.  There is almost no moment without this inner monologue.

Sometimes they become aware of their inner voice and listen to its endless stream of words.  Most often though they unconsciously turn daily problems over and over in their mind.

Are these inner monologues known to you?

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An esteemful personality: Charlie Chaplin

Charlie ChaplinCharlie Chaplin may have been the ultimate cinematic comedian.  In the last three quarters of a century his work lifted the spirits of countless people around the world.

But Chaplin was more than just a clown.   His words were thoughtful and genuine and worth listening to.  He used the medium of film to speak about important human topics.

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