Actually, no. There are huge differences between self-esteem and narcissism.
Self-esteem means realizing the true value of yourself. You can do that by knowing that your are special as special as everybody else. Not two people on the world are the same. Everybody is unique in his personality, in his talents and expressions. Having a healthy self-esteem means to acknowledge this fact. You know your value, your talents, your uniqueness in a very healthy way.
Narcissism on the other hand is all about praising oneself over just everything one does or says. Narcissism basically refers to the thought of being superior.
Narcissism needs comparisons for its growth and competition to prove itself while self-esteem knows that comparisons are simply not possible and competitions are not necessary in order to find out one’s uniqueness.
This might sound a little out there “Learn to tolerate your self-esteem”, but it actually nails it.
I recently read this post of Mike Bundrant and found that it’s one of the best about self-esteem I’ve read in a long time. This is what he essentially said. For more details click on the link.
Low self-esteem is usually due to a psychological attachment to being perceived in a negative light. By constantly seeing you in a negative light you learned a powerful lesson – that your existence is a negative.
The real problem though lies in the fact that as child you trusted the opinion of others and now you continue to trust the judgments of others. At this point, the black hole of negativity in your psyche is quite powerful and you may have a very difficult time shaking the emotional attachment to all the negativity.
So seeing this what can you do? The key is to realize that your tendency to do things that prove your low self-esteem are based on a false indoctrination, one that you continue to give yourself in the present.
One of the steps Mike Bundrant is speaking of is to learn to tolerate the self-esteem. Happiness and self-respect take some getting used to so that you can trust them. Patience and tolerance for success are the key points in order to create positive psychological attachments.
I mean who is really surprised by this newest research about the impact of Facebook use on the self-esteem. In Europe the activities in Facebook are already declining, widely discussed in books, ebooks and articles.
A new study made by University Michigan social psychologist Ethan Kross, lead author of the article and a faculty associate at the U-M Institute for Social Research, confirms now that Facebook use predicts decline in happiness. Ethan Kross says: “On the surface, Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection. But rather than enhance well-being, we found that Facebook use predicts the opposite result—it undermines it.”
The study found that the more people used Facebook during one time period, the worse they subsequently felt. People were asked to rate their level of life satisfaction at the start and end of the study. They found that the more participants used Facebook, the more their life satisfaction levels declined over time.
In order to find that it’s the Facebook use that actually lowers people’s self-esteem it is important to hear that the researchers found no evidence that interacting directly with other people via phone or face-to-face influenced well-being negatively. Instead, they found that direct interactions with other people led people to feel better over time.
The researchers hope to conduct additional research with participants from a variety of age groups to examine these results and the psychological mechanisms more closely.
In Germany the number of the centenarians has more than doubled within the last ten years. The fact that these centenarians today are spiritually and physically fitter than those of former generations, is found by a representative investigation of researchers of the university of Heidelberg which they made with people at the age of 100 years in and around Heidelberg.
The study showed a comprehensive picture of centenarians and their life situation. It appears that psychological strengths such as will to live, meaning of life and optimism are more important for a high quality of life and inner contentment than performance ability or health.
“We asked people whose life leans towards to the end. Those who look in spite of the close end of life still optimistically ahead, appear to be more content with their life. In comparison to that health, cognitive efficiency and social aspects are with few exceptions clearly insignificant for the quality of life“, explains Christoph Rott, one of the researchers.
He added: “To sum up, the results of our study show that experiences of losing life quality for example through health issues have much less impact on the centenarians’ general well-being. They live much more the positive side of age through a strong esteem for life.”
Well, the main question is: is there a difference at all between self-esteem and self-compassion. It depends on how we define the two.
Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. Do you feel generally good about yourself, then your self-esteem is considered to be high. Self-compassion on the other hand is about how kind we treat ourselves.
The core of the general discussion points toward the fact that self-esteem can weaken and strengthen through events that happen in life. Self-compassion though stays constant and keeps the person balanced in inner calmness. This means self-esteem can be low or high while self-compassion is present or not.
The question you might answer in order to find out if your self-compassion is there in your life is: Do you understand that negative events just occur in life which sometimes can’t be avoided? If you say yes, your self-compassion is present.
If you answer yes to this question: Do you feel that your value in life and self-esteem is lowered because the bad experience you had to make could have been avoided? Then you deal solely with your self-esteem that you consider do be changeable through your life.
Reading books, writing and generally participating in brain-stimulating activities at any age preserves not only memory but also keeps you young and fit.
A new research, published in the July 3, 2013, online issue of Neurology®, the medical journal of the American Academy of Neurology, suggests that exercising your brain from childhood through old age is important for brain health in old age.
The research found that people who participated in mentally stimulating activities until late in life had a slower rate of decline in memory compared to those who did not participate in such activities across their lifetime.
“Based on this, we shouldn’t underestimate the effects of everyday activities, such as reading and writing, on our children, ourselves and our parents or grandparents,” said Robert S. Wilson, PhD, Rush University Medical Center in Chicago.
This result should motivate everybody to keep reading, writing and learning in every possible way.
The world’s oldest organ that is still playable stands in the Basilica of Valeria in Sitten, Switzerland.
The so called Valeria organ was built at the beginning of the 15th century and was extended in 1687. Around the middle of the 19th century it fell into oblivion. The former curator of the basilica of Valeria, Maurice Wenger, revived the instrument in the first half of the 20th century bit by bit. When in 1946 after an earthquake several whistles had detached themselves, he patched them up after a fashion with adhesive tape and wooden pieces. The first restoration occurred in 1954 after experts recognized the specific feature of the instrument.
The Valeria organ plays 45 marks and is two third tones higher tuned than commonly used. Therefore some modern pieces aren’t playable on it. The keyboard of the instrument encloses as a specific feature a so-called short octave, that is one without semitones.
We speak about self-esteem, self-confidence, self-image, but what does “Self” really mean?
Recently I read some thoughts about the Self from Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. who explains the self referring of “how you judge yourself, how you think others judge you, how you imagine and think about your body, and what you believe others think of you. In a matter of speaking, the self refers to “what it’s like to be you.” The self is a mental model you have of yourself, an idea, a concept or way of thinking.”
He also mentions another thought: “What it is like to be you is something that is not static. It changes over time. It’s the result of your experiences. However, there is nothing solid about the self. In reality, it’s a construct, an idea, a mental model you have of yourself, an idea, a concept or way of thinking. As such, it is fluid, it changes over time.”
What do you think?
Attitude specialist Janice Davies has created the annual international Self Esteem Day recently renamed Selfday, to be celebrated on June the 26th. As the president of International Council of Self Esteem, this year the event in spreading to 140 countries around the world.
Selfday aims to inspire the practice of self belief and confidence globally. The charitable non-profit organization is dedicated to create awareness and motivate action to help enhance human effectiveness and to build healthy self confidence.
Davis says: “Everyone can learn to believe or re-believe in themselves and especially in this climate remind themselves they may not have caused the event though they are experiencing it. Unless one does, we function from a place of fear and scarcity which often manifests in the opposite of what most of us truly desire.”
The Selfday reminds everybody to take care of themselves, to take care of their self-esteem. The best way to do that is to give esteem to others.
This is our quote of the day:
“Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.”