Well, the main question is: is there a difference at all between self-esteem and self-compassion. It depends on how we define the two.
Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. Do you feel generally good about yourself, then your self-esteem is considered to be high. Self-compassion on the other hand is about how kind we treat ourselves.
The core of the general discussion points toward the fact that self-esteem can weaken and strengthen through events that happen in life. Self-compassion though stays constant and keeps the person balanced in inner calmness. This means self-esteem can be low or high while self-compassion is present or not.
The question you might answer in order to find out if your self-compassion is there in your life is: Do you understand that negative events just occur in life which sometimes can’t be avoided? If you say yes, your self-compassion is present.
If you answer yes to this question: Do you feel that your value in life and self-esteem is lowered because the bad experience you had to make could have been avoided? Then you deal solely with your self-esteem that you consider do be changeable through your life.
Reading books, writing and generally participating in brain-stimulating activities at any age preserves not only memory but also keeps you young and fit.
A new research, published in the July 3, 2013, online issue of Neurology®, the medical journal of the American Academy of Neurology, suggests that exercising your brain from childhood through old age is important for brain health in old age.
The research found that people who participated in mentally stimulating activities until late in life had a slower rate of decline in memory compared to those who did not participate in such activities across their lifetime.
“Based on this, we shouldn’t underestimate the effects of everyday activities, such as reading and writing, on our children, ourselves and our parents or grandparents,” said Robert S. Wilson, PhD, Rush University Medical Center in Chicago.
This result should motivate everybody to keep reading, writing and learning in every possible way.
The world’s oldest organ that is still playable stands in the Basilica of Valeria in Sitten, Switzerland.
The so called Valeria organ was built at the beginning of the 15th century and was extended in 1687. Around the middle of the 19th century it fell into oblivion. The former curator of the basilica of Valeria, Maurice Wenger, revived the instrument in the first half of the 20th century bit by bit. When in 1946 after an earthquake several whistles had detached themselves, he patched them up after a fashion with adhesive tape and wooden pieces. The first restoration occurred in 1954 after experts recognized the specific feature of the instrument.
The Valeria organ plays 45 marks and is two third tones higher tuned than commonly used. Therefore some modern pieces aren’t playable on it. The keyboard of the instrument encloses as a specific feature a so-called short octave, that is one without semitones.
We speak about self-esteem, self-confidence, self-image, but what does “Self” really mean?
Recently I read some thoughts about the Self from Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. who explains the self referring of “how you judge yourself, how you think others judge you, how you imagine and think about your body, and what you believe others think of you. In a matter of speaking, the self refers to “what it’s like to be you.” The self is a mental model you have of yourself, an idea, a concept or way of thinking.”
He also mentions another thought: “What it is like to be you is something that is not static. It changes over time. It’s the result of your experiences. However, there is nothing solid about the self. In reality, it’s a construct, an idea, a mental model you have of yourself, an idea, a concept or way of thinking. As such, it is fluid, it changes over time.”
What do you think?
Attitude specialist Janice Davies has created the annual international Self Esteem Day recently renamed Selfday, to be celebrated on June the 26th. As the president of International Council of Self Esteem, this year the event in spreading to 140 countries around the world.
Selfday aims to inspire the practice of self belief and confidence globally. The charitable non-profit organization is dedicated to create awareness and motivate action to help enhance human effectiveness and to build healthy self confidence.
Davis says: “Everyone can learn to believe or re-believe in themselves and especially in this climate remind themselves they may not have caused the event though they are experiencing it. Unless one does, we function from a place of fear and scarcity which often manifests in the opposite of what most of us truly desire.”
The Selfday reminds everybody to take care of themselves, to take care of their self-esteem. The best way to do that is to give esteem to others.
This is our quote of the day:
“Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.”
Esteem is a deeply human sense to appreciate the uniqueness and the qualities of each single person.
Esteem is like love inseparable of humanity. With esteem we see the good sides in people, we encourage them in their talents and on their way through life. Esteem is about seeing others as they are in their core and not as they seem to be. Esteem comes from the heart and goes to the heart.
Esteem is what we want to receive for ourselves, but it needs to be honest esteem. When we receive esteem we are able to give esteem to others.
Lao Tzu said: “When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.”