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When the wind of change blows …

Change by Jeffrey A. KottlerThere is an ancient Chinese proverb that goes: “When the wind of change blows, some people build walls, others build windmills.”

Change can cause people to become frightened.  They want to stay with what’s known even when it’s rendered obsolete.

Life teaches us that the only constant is change.  We make changes all the time, some big and some small.  The big changes may be frightening because they mean that life will never be exactly the same.

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Asking is not a sign of weakness

Some people think that asking questions is a sign of weakness.  This attitude implies that the asking person is weak and and uninformed.

This feeling often holds people with a low self-esteem back from asking questions.  They fear that their self-esteem will be judged by others.

The reality is just the opposite.  A Chinese proverb says it succinctly: “He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.’

Asking isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign curiosity and a willingness to learn.  Being curious and willing to learn are signs of a strong self-esteem.  When we really know ourselves we know that we don’t know everything.  We know that we always desire to know more.

There will be never a moment in life when we should stop asking questions.  This is what people with a strong self-esteem know.

Esteem and friendliness

We can’t hide friendliness because it draws a very public sign on our face: smiles.

When we think about friendliness we realize its deepness.  True friendliness means that we give toward our fellow men esteem without expecting that we get esteem back.

Friendliness comes out of genuine esteem.  True esteem is given for free and abundantly.  We will be able to live friendliness in our daily life when we give friendliness to ourselves.

A Chinese proverb is expressing this wonderfully:  “When I carry a green branch in my heart, a songbird will alight on it.”