We line ourselves up with our fellow men in order to receive love.
This is the reason why we assess our own intrinsic value according to how our fellow men value us.
When we are praised we feel good.
When we’re reproached our self-confidence decreases immediately and we feel bad.
Continue reading Self-esteem, Intrinsic Value and Criticism
You might think that giving esteem toward other people means that you can’t express your critical thoughts or your opinion about the person or an action.
Genuine esteem is always expressed with truth and honesty and at the same time with understanding and patience.
Criticism itself can be expressed in two ways. One is negative and therefore destructive, it doesn’t show understanding and can’t inspire. The other way is positive and constructive, it helps in recognizing foibles and strengths in a supporting and growing way.
Esteem uses positive criticism knowing that each person wants to grow and to develop himself. We all want to be better in what we like to do. Positive criticism helps us in our development by giving ourselves or by getting it through other people with genuine esteem.