People can speak nonstop for hours – with themselves. They speak with themselves even when they are working, engaged in athletics or just playing around. There is almost no moment without this inner monologue.
Sometimes they become aware of their inner voice and listen to its endless stream of words. Most often though they unconsciously turn daily problems over and over in their mind.
Are these inner monologues known to you?
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Esteem in our daily life is very important. We made our own practical “To-Do-List” of the top 5 steps leading toward a life with esteem. Here are the five basic steps with which we can realize esteem in our life.
Step 1: Building up self-esteem.
Self-esteem means basically our thoughts about ourselves and not the thoughts and opinions of others. Self-esteem is another word for self-confidence and self-trust. I had to honestly ask myself “What is your self-trust? How self-confident am I? In order to answer those questions I had to examine the source of my self-esteem.
I started by asking what kind of pictures I held of myself. It’s important that you realize the first pictures you get are most of all measured, rated and judged. I threw out the images of what somebody else told me about myself. To realize real self-esteem you have to forget these outer judgments. This is how we grew up, how we learned it. We all do the same way at first. But at some point It’s time to correct these outer opinions and discover our true self-esteem. It’s a dialog that’s only within you.
I took inventory of myself and sincerely asked: Where am I good? Which are the activities I really like to do? I didn’t waste time worrying if they were “reasonable”, “unpractical” or whatever judgment I could give. Forget evaluations. It’s all about experiences, inner personal thoughts, unique talents, just as they are without any valuation.
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We can speak to ourselves in soliloqy. We also can speak to others without letting them answering, as in a monolog. Finally we can speak with others, listening and speaking, this is a dialog.
Creating a dialog is a very social action. We speak and we listen. We are attentively together with others.
Esteem is dialog because living esteem we listen to what other people want to tell us and because esteem means speaking to others with kind words.
Dialog in a very positive sense is nothing else than esteem with spoken words.