In Wikipedia I read that self-esteem encompasses beliefs, emotions and behavior, it comprises our whole personality.
Self-esteem doesn’t depend on external actions or experiences. Contrarily, it is the manner of handling external actions. How you act, how you think, how you feel, every move of your personality is an expression of your self-esteem.
I like the picture of having self-esteem in each cell of our body. It makes self-esteem corporal and mental at the same time. With all our cells we live and express self-esteem. Everybody should have a highly developed self-esteem.
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We have a certain picture of ourselves with which we try to define our attitudes, believes and opinions. This picture can be weak and fragile or strong and self-confident.
How we think about ourselves is called our self-concept.
To find out what your self-concept is answer questions such as “What do I want to reach in my life?” or “How successful am I in my life?”.
Self-concept isn’t the same as self-esteem even when both are closely linked to each other.
Self-esteem touches the emotional aspect of our self. The picture we have about ourselves is filled with feelings and impressions – and self-judgments.
To find out what our self-esteem is answer questions such as “Am I an important person for my job or family?” or “Do I have unshakable trust in my abilities?”.
With our self-esteem we judge our self-concept . With high self-esteem we judge ourselves honestly.
In quiet moments of life we can listen to our inner voice speaking about our self-concept and self-esteem and assuring us that both aren’t unalterable. Our self-concept grows through our life as well as our self-esteem. It’s up to us to give this growth the right direction.
Moderation can easily be misunderstood as self-control in the meaning of suppressing emotions or abstention. But moderation as a virtue means not being dominated by emotions expressed in the form of excess.
When we live esteem in our life we develop the virtue of moderation more easily because we already live patience and understanding. Moderation goes strongly together with these two attitudes.
We also see moderation when people are not interrupting others because it’s more important to them to give esteem toward others than to insist on own opinions.
Moderation as forth virtue works together with the other three such as wisdom, justice and courage mutually encouraging and developing.
Our lives are filled with emotional moments of all kinds from sad to happy.
We know how important it is to be able to express our emotions. With a high self-knowledge we can handle our emotions without being disturbed or disturbing others.
When are emotions disturbing? The answer is simple: when we lose control. These are moments when we get worked up and negatively affected by our emotions.
Now let’s imagine we feel esteemed and therefore happy. We can’t get worked up anymore. Esteem is like magic because it makes us patient, calm and understanding. All these attitudes prevent us from being worked up. If we get esteem or give esteem we create an atmosphere of understanding and this stops us being worked up.
When we’re tempted toward those negative emotions, let’s just think for a moment that it’s always us deciding to lose control. We’ll realize that being worked up doesn’t help us and anybody else. With that we bring esteem into the moment and give ourselves and the people around us the chance to express true emotions.