San Francisco State University psychologists have found that buying life experiences makes people happier than buying possessions. What does that mean “buying life experiences”? It means buying concert tickets or a weekend away, rather than hitting the mall for material items.
“We know that being an ‘experience shopper’ is linked to greater well being,” said Howell, whose 2009 paper on purchasing experiences challenged the adage that money can’t buy happiness. He suggests it could be easier to change your spending habits than your personality traits. “Even for people who naturally find themselves drawn to material purchases, our results suggest that getting more of a balance between traditional purchases and those that provide you with an experience could lead to greater life satisfaction and well being.”
What do you think about this idea?
We encounter many situations in life that go against our wishes and make us uncomfortable.
This attitude comes from our desire to be able to control life as much as possible. The less control we have, the less comfortable we feel.
The truth is that a strong self-esteem frees us from this urge to control our life. A strong self-esteem takes life experiences just as they happen. With this attitude we define the experience itself and how we handle it.
Aldous Huxley explained this truth with the words: “Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you.”
With this constructive attitude we find ourselves better able to handle life’s variety of experiences.
Integrating esteem in our daily life arouses habits within us which embrace social awareness, personal curiosity and open friendliness. These are the ingredients we use for daily learning.
There is no moment in life when we stop learning because everything, even the seemingly smallest experience can be a learning experience.
Learning is as essential for our life as breathing. With every breath we take air from the outside, change it inside us and give it back to the outside air. Learning happens the same way. We take an experience, change it inside us and give it back to life.
Sometimes we learn on purpose – such as children do in schools. Sometimes learning is subtle because it happens unconsciously. However it happens, it’s an important part of life.
When we integrate esteem in our life we become more aware of people and situations because we are open and well-intentioned. Esteem also makes us curious because life has so many great opportunities. Finally esteem pushes us toward learning because we realize that life doesn’t stand still.
We always move forwards thanks to continuous learning. Each step we take in life is borne by new learning experiences moving us toward the person we are meant to be. Learning happens like esteem. It can’t be just for us as a personal act. It’s always receiving and giving, just as esteem happens.
Sometimes I read in articles about sports that a winning team “humbled” the other team. This word creates a feeling that sport means fighting and that losing has to mean being humiliated.
There are indeed two different ways to look at and to understand sport. One way is that sport is like a fight. The public gives attention only to the outcome, to the winner. The other way is that sport is entertainment and fun. The audience enjoys the sport activities with all details such as strategy, talent and exciting plays. The result, the winner and loser are only one small part of the total experience.
If we can understand the second approach to sports we’re living the esteem view.
We wouldn’t only look at who is the winner and loser, we would enjoy sport with all its facets, participants and talents.
When you learn something which interests you then you learn fast and without any problem. You give esteem to a topic which is close to your heart, which catches your whole interest.
The other side is that you get esteem for your knowledge when you demonstrate such rapid growth in knowledge.
I guess that everybody going through school had made this experience. Learning with esteem makes all the difference!