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Being an experience shopper makes one happy

San Francisco State University psychologists have found that buying life experiences makes people happier than buying possessions. What does that mean “buying life experiences”? It means buying concert tickets or a weekend away, rather than hitting the mall for material items.

“We know that being an ‘experience shopper’ is linked to greater well being,” said Howell, whose 2009 paper on purchasing experiences challenged the adage that money can’t buy happiness. He suggests it could be easier to change your spending habits than your personality traits. “Even for people who naturally find themselves drawn to material purchases, our results suggest that getting more of a balance between traditional purchases and those that provide you with an experience could lead to greater life satisfaction and well being.”

What do you think about this idea?


Esteem step by step

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”  This proverb of Confucius expresses an attitude which can be applied to esteem as well as life generally.

As long as we integrate esteem into our life on a daily basis we can’t go wrong.  Esteem step by step means that it’s better to give small or just one sign of esteem but to give it daily instead of giving a lot of signs of esteem on one day and nothing at the following days.

Each new habit we want to let grow in our life needs this kind of attitude:  going slowly but steadily instead of doing a lot and then stopping.  Esteem can become part of our life when we live it step by step.

Living esteem as a new habit

Remaining in old habits keeps us from being creative and innovative.  Creativity means that we try new things, and we are filled with wonder.

Making only either-or-decisions each day keeps us in tight narrow lines of thinking.

Developing new habits means leaving the paths of old habits and this always means leaving our comfort level.  The rewards of breaking old habits are great – such as keeping a healthy brain.  Brain researchers have discovered that varying your daily routine can help keep your mind healthy and active.

Each day we try to live esteem we are developing new habits.  Each day we create happiness around us and keep ourselves healthy!


Esteem means clearing out our minds

When we integrate esteem in our life we experience an inner calmness which we also call serenity.

To be able to reach serenity we need to clear out our minds.  In fact it’s like clearing out our homes from clutter.  The clutter in our homes shows that we can’t let go of things.  We collect them and we bind ourselves to them.

In our mind we do the same, we can’t let go thoughts, memories, habits and attitudes.

Just by letting go of one binding thought we immediately feel freedom and calmness.  This small step makes us open enough to allow esteem to enter in our life.  And even better: the more we live esteem, the more we are able to clear out our mind and live a life in calmness and serenity.


Path for living esteem, Part 3: esteem in our social life

Our list of five steps necessary for integrating esteem in our lives continues with esteem in our social life.

Living esteem in our social life

Our social life means is every contact we have with others outside of our work.  We spend time with our friends, our club fellow members, our neighbors and even our relatives.  The better we know the people of our social life the harder it can be to give whole-hearted esteem.  We believe we know others and their habits and this knowledge can make us sometimes narrow-hearted.

To be able to live esteem in our social life it can be helpful to consider the attitudes which make it easy to give esteem toward our friends, relatives or neighbors.

The first attitude we embrace with our living esteem is being light-hearted.  This means that we beam happiness through our words and actions.  Everybody around us deserves our smile.  Being light-hearted is not only a polite act toward others, it’s more.  When we take esteem serious we find that everybody is precious in those moments we spend time together.  Life happens in each moment, not before and not after. 

Continue reading Path for living esteem, Part 3: esteem in our social life

Path for living esteem, Part 2: esteem at home

Continuing our list of five steps necessary for integrating esteem in our lives.  Part 1 about Self-esteem as a basis for each step toward esteem leads us into today’s theme – Esteem at home.

Living esteem at home

However our private life looks like we have each day numerous opportunities to live esteem at home.

The people in our lives have their own life philosophy and life experiences.  Our first step toward esteem at home gives acknowledgment to that fact.  As we wrote some days before, imagining one day in the shoes of the other helps us to understand their lives and thoughts.

Living esteem at home embraces patience for our children of any age, for our partner and spouse and even for our neighbors. Patience gives us time to develop empathy for them.  Empathy is an important step toward esteem.

There is a basic adjective for this attitude: unconditional.  Living esteem at home means that we give unconditional acknowledgment to our family, the persons we care about.  They don’t need to gain our esteem, they don’t need to do something to get esteem.

Continue reading Path for living esteem, Part 2: esteem at home

Esteem and politeness

Speaking about politeness might seem to be old fashioned.  Some people consider being polite as being shallow.

If you bump against somebody you can be polite and excuse yourself or you can move on without a word.  

For the other person your being polite appears as esteem.  You seem to be attentive.  Politeness means showing that you care about your behavior toward other people.

As we discussed in a previous post about behavior and habit, being polite – even when it’s sometimes an automatic reaction – can become a habit.

Politeness is basic for all the other friendly and esteemful habits you’ll develop by integrating esteem consciously in your life.

Esteem – habit or behavior?

Imagine this situation: you meet your collegue in the office and you greet him politely, you ask him how it’s going.  Your behavior is very polite.  The question is: is being polite also your habit?  If you’re always polite your answer would be yes.

There’s a basic difference between habit and behavior.  If you begin to give esteem daily you’ll start a behavior.  If you’re continuing giving esteem each day you’ll transform esteem from a behavior to a habit.

Esteem as habit is precious, but each small esteem-ful action is precious too.  However we live esteem, as behavior or as habit, it’s important to give it.