According to a new study researchers found that when mothers look at their babies it activates certain parts of the brain known to be activated by other positive acts such as finding food or a mate. Researchers call this an “evolutionary survival” effect. Most mothers admit that seeing their smiling babies has an addictive effect on them. They want to see it over and over again because it makes them happy.
It’s great that science can prove this connection between happy motherhood and smiling babies. Smiles are important to every age though.
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“TV doesn’t really seem to satisfy people over the long haul the way that social involvement or reading a newspaper does,” says University of Maryland sociologist John P. Robinson. “It’s more passive and may provide escape – especially when the news is as depressing as the economy itself. The data suggest to us that the TV habit may offer short-run pleasure at the expense of long-term malaise.”
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I mean who is really surprised by the impact of Facebook on self-esteem? In Europe the activities in Facebook are declining, which is widely discussed in books, ebooks and articles.
A study made by University Michigan social psychologist Ethan Kross confirms that Facebook use predicts decline in happiness. Ethan Kross says: “On the surface, Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection. But rather than enhance well-being, we found that Facebook use predicts the opposite result—it undermines it.”
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Happiness is a gift. Happiness is also a matter of personal choice. What’s happening to us in the outside world is often an inside job.
We can approach daily circumstances with an attitude of our choosing. When esteem is an important part of our life we generally choose to be joyful. This joyful inner attitude will attract the outward experience of happiness. Therefore the pursuit of happiness is actually an inward journey. It’s up to us to keep our attitude joyful by living esteem daily. Our inner joy leads to happiness for us and for other people.
Who else than C.G. Jung can be consulted to this theme!
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There are as many life purposes as people on earth. But there is only one life purpose which we could call to be universally human: it’s happiness.
This little story explains it:
When I was 5 years old, my mom always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment and I told them they didn’t understand life.
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San Francisco State University psychologists have found that buying life experiences makes people happier than buying possessions. What does that mean “buying life experiences”? It means buying concert tickets or a weekend away, rather than hitting the mall for material items.
“We know that being an ‘experience shopper’ is linked to greater well being,” said Howell, whose 2009 paper on purchasing experiences challenged the adage that money can’t buy happiness. He suggests it could be easier to change your spending habits than your personality traits. “Even for people who naturally find themselves drawn to material purchases, our results suggest that getting more of a balance between traditional purchases and those that provide you with an experience could lead to greater life satisfaction and well being.”
What do you think about this idea?
It’s easy to give esteem to somebody in a moment of success or happiness. It’s no problem to acknowledge great life moments, positive actions or friendly words. But what about esteem for moments of failure? How can we acknowledge when somebody falls?
Esteem for moments of failure doesn’t acknowledge the failure itself but its effect on the people involved. Failure happens to everybody because nobody is perfect. Esteem highlights this fact and encourages us to pick ourselves up and go on.
The great effect of esteem in moments like this: it creates motivation to do it better the next time. When people receive esteem in sad moments they receive with it hope that this moment won’t last forever.
With esteem we can help people in realizing what Confucius said: “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.”
How we perceive life situations depends on our general attitude toward life.
If our perspective toward life is determined by a feeling of incertitude and fear we may perceive certain life situations as threatening. If our perspective toward life is led by esteem we may perceive the same life situations with confidence and a good outcome.
You can find out what kind of life perspective you have by asking how you define life situations. Do you define happiness as an absence of sadness or does have happiness for you an autonomous value? Can you spontaneously describe misfortune better than luck?
By giving esteem an important place in your life it can enable you to change your perspective of life in a positive way.
While we try daily to live esteem we often experience that esteem gives us unexpected gifts that make our life easier and happier.
Handling worry in a calm and mature way is one of these gifts given by esteem. We don’t mean that integrating esteem into our life means that we won’t worry anymore. Worrying is a human expression which we can’t just stop like that. What we can change through esteem is our attitude toward worrying.
American author Leo F. Buscaglia said: “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
This is the kind of knowledge toward which we’re led when we look to create esteem in our life. Esteem makes us realize that worrying should make us alert but never in a panicked or an overwhelming manner.
Sometimes you may feel that the daily things aren’t as important or precious as the so-called “special moments”. The special moments of life are certainly precious and we can acknowledge that.
It’s also important to remember that daily moments are precious too. There is one simple way to help you remember to appreciate the seemingly ordinary moments: try to picture your life without them.
Giving esteem to such daily moments makes you more aware of the preciousness of life in general. Moments don’t need to be huge and overwhelming to be acknowledged. Small moments of daily contentment are equally precious and worthy of esteem.