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Esteem for opera singers

Opera singer Renee FlemingFor music lovers, enjoying classical music in the form of operas is a special occasion.  We can all derive pleasure from listening to opera singers.

We don’t see the years of hard work behind their talent; the intense singing exercises, how much care they have to give their precious voice and the slow, gradual development of their instrument.

We just enjoy the uplifting music and their amazing voices.

Wouldn’t it be great to give esteem directly to these artists to show that their efforts are precious?

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Does your inner voice speak endlessly?

“Don’t say inside, what you cannot say outside.”  This quote could sum up the way we think about how our self-esteem expresses itself.

How are you speaking with your inner voice about yourself?  We’re not talking about the soliloquies.  We’re talking about the little inner comments we make about everything we do or say.  Our attitude toward ourselves is reflected in our self-talk.  Attitude toward ourselves is just another word for self-esteem.

We are normally polite toward others, and we smile and encourage others when they fail.

But how polite are we toward ourselves?  Do we encourage us when we failed?

Our inner voice speaks almost endlessly.  What we have to be aware of are all the harmful words.  Negative self-talk isn’t constructive.  Our self-esteem needs genuine self-appreciation when we do something good and constructive criticism when we make mistakes.

Self-talk only seems to be hidden within us.  In fact it’s visible to everyone through our self-esteem.

Self-esteem and self-honesty

We can easily come up with a range of excuses for our actions.  The same can be said for words or feelings as well as for potentially bad situations we want to avoid.  At first view it seems to be the easiest way to excuse ourselves.  

But this is a path which leads away from self-honesty and consequentially from self-esteem.

After a while we feel deeply uncomfortable.  It’s the inner voice of our self-esteem telling us that we lost the connection to our core.

Along with self-esteem, self-honesty is a deeply human attitude.  We can destroy them both by giving responsibility for our actions to outer situations or persons.  When we take the responsibility for our life we encourage self-esteem as well as self-honesty.

Next time you feel tempted to make excuses to avoid responsibility, take pause for a moment.  Your self-esteem will tell you unequivocally that self-honesty is the better way.

Intuition as inner guide

Intuition is little known part of our personality.  According to its Latin roots it means “in to you”.  This may be the reason why so many people don’t know anything about it – it’s hidden in us.

Intuition is like an inner voice that inexplicably points us in a certain direction.

When we learn to rely on external advice to find our way through life we reduced our ability to listen to this inner voice.

Intuition doesn’t always give us the whole answer, it only gives a hint, a mysterious picture or a certain feeling.

To be able to listen to our intuition and even more to give it an important place in our life we need to have a healthy self-esteem.

Having a high self-esteem means that we have also a strong self-knowledge.  When self-esteem and self-knowledge handle each other with love and acceptance we recognize our personality analytically but also intuitively.

A high elf-esteem boosts our intuition.  Intuition, once accepted, can lead us wisely on our way through life.   This trust helps to develop our self-esteem even more.

Self-esteem and intuition are like twins, sometimes separated but always wishing to be close to each other.


Self-esteem and self-concept

We have a certain picture of ourselves with which we try to define our attitudes, believes and opinions.  This picture can be weak and fragile or strong and self-confident.

How we think about ourselves is called our self-concept.

To find out what your self-concept is answer questions such as “What do I want to reach in my life?” or “How successful am I in my life?”.

Self-concept isn’t the same as self-esteem even when both are closely linked to each other.

Self-esteem touches the emotional aspect of our self.  The picture we have about ourselves is filled with feelings and impressions – and self-judgments.

To find out what our self-esteem is answer questions such as “Am I an important person for my job or family?” or “Do I have unshakable trust in my abilities?”.

With our self-esteem we judge our self-concept .  With high self-esteem we judge ourselves honestly.

In quiet moments of life we can listen to our inner voice speaking about our self-concept and self-esteem and assuring us that both aren’t unalterable.  Our self-concept grows through our life as well as our self-esteem.  It’s up to us to give this growth the right direction.