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Should self-esteem overcome shyness?

In a world where the most outgoing people seem to get the most attention shyness could be considered an undesirable trait.  Some people even make the connection between shyness and low self-esteem.

In time we come to learn this isn’t necessarily true.  There are shy people and there are outgoing people, and shyness doesn’t necessarily mean low self-esteem.

It’s okay to have a shy personality.  These people should stay as they are, because it’s an expression of their own personality.  Shyness can be compatible with a high self-esteem.

Shyness can on the other hand originate from bad life experiences or low self-confidence.  In these cases, shyness is not considered a positive part of the personality.

Developing a high self-esteem can lead one to overcome this kind of shyness.

Self-esteem and shyness

Some people believe that being shy is a sign of low self-esteem.   But what does shyness really mean and what leads a person toward a high self-esteem?

Being shy can be a reaction to being hurt or humiliated.  It can be used as a way to prevent further pain.  In this case shyness goes together with a low self-esteem.

But being shy can also be a character trait.  In this case it means being introverted instead of extroverted.  Shy people are generally less communicative, quieter and often more observant.  They can have a high self-esteem, knowing themselves as a calm and introverted character and accepting themselves as they are.

Being shy isn’t necessarily a sign of low self-esteem.  Shy people with a healthy self-esteem know that already.