We encounter open-mindedness when we meet people free of prejudice, and who are tolerant, curious of life and modern thinking.
One of the best descriptions of open-mindedness is that it’s a state of being ready to accept new ideas. Being open-minded means being interested in other people, other cultures and other ideas.
How can we develop this precious character trait which obviously can make it easier for us to live esteem in our life?
To develop open-mindedness we can exercise tolerance toward ourselves and toward others. We can expose ourselves to foreign cultures, other ideas – or in other words to everything which at first glance seems strange to us.
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Children look freely on the world with curious eyes, eager to discover new experiences – open for everything and everybody. The most amazing thing about children and their approach to the world is that they don’t judge.
Children are too young to have prejudgments, this fact makes them open-minded. The way they look at events and people makes us think about ourselves and our approach to the world.
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We may start our day with the honest thought of giving esteem as often as possible. But sometimes it’s difficult to achieve because people are ill-tempered or because the situation isn’t right.
There is a little tip for making it easier to give esteem freely. Picture the people you meet with a sign on their forehead that says: “Make me feel important”.
Giving esteem has exactly this effect on the people receiving it: they feel important and precious. It may sound strange but just noticing people gives them the impression that they’re important. How much better is a smile or an acknowledging word!
The contrary is true as well: everybody who is ignored feels himself unimportant.
The next time you have a hard time giving esteem just imagine this little forehead sign and it will help you to give them a sign of esteem.
The Dalai Lama said once: “The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation of goodness.”
Our own development depends on where we put our emphasis on and toward what we give esteem. With this choice we can doubtlessly control our own development.
When we give esteem for goodness we dedicate ourselves toward living goodness. We make ourselves more attentive to discovering goodness in the world and at the same time create goodness around us. Goodness happens all the time, but most often quietly and hidden. Giving esteem for goodness means that we reveal goodness when it happens.
Giving genuine esteem for goodness doesn’t work with a wagging finger. It’s more about patiently directing our attention and the attention of other people toward goodness in life. By giving esteem for goodness we create the best basis for goodness itself. This kind of esteem for goodness is not about teaching but about living as an example.
All over the country people enjoy summer parties. It’s fun to be outside with friends and family members. Some families like to organize inter-generational summer parties including grandparents, parents and kids.
Inter-generational summer parties can be a great opportunity to enjoy relaxing outdoor event together. Grandparents can participate in the activities and enthusiasm of the children. The children can get to know the life experience of their grandparents. Parents can create a relaxing and fun atmosphere for everybody.
A successful inter-generational summer party needs mutual esteem. Giving esteem to each other means not needing to be right and not expecting perfection – or in more positive words: giving esteem mutually means being open-minded, understanding and patient. On this base an inter-generational summer party can be a great moment of joy and commemorated as wonderful event for all participants.
Some homes in Switzerland have a proverb in their foyer saying “Welcome is everybody who can be mute about others”. In German this proverb rhymes like all these home proverbs do. It means: rather than saying something negative about people behind their back we keep silent about them.
Sometimes it seems to be a human habit that people talk about people behind their back. It seems like it’s just exchanging information but all of us know that most often it’s just circulating rumors.
Many times talking behind someone’s back means telling negative stories. We might feel uncomfortable while we’re doing it but we still can’t stop ourselves.
Esteem interrupts this habit because it makes us open-minded. With esteem we can’t judge others, even less so while they’re absent. We feel the need to give them the opportunity to explain themselves.
Esteem always honors our discussion about absent people. When we speak about them we only express esteem toward them. We can do the same when we witness others talking about absent people. By doing that we express that everybody deserves esteem.