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Esteem for housework


After spending a good part of my Saturday on housework I began thinking about housework and esteem.

There are certain kinds of work in our society that don’t get as much esteem as others.  Doing housework is one of those jobs which get the least esteem.  Why is that?

The most obvious reason to give housework less esteem is the fact that we don’t get paid for doing it.  It has no material counter-value which can express its value.

Since we can’t change this fact, we can focus on the actions we can do to express our esteem.  Basically we have two ways to give esteem for housework.

One way is to give esteem to ourselves after having done the housework.  We can reward ourselves by going out to a nice dinner, picking up a great dessert or relaxing with our favorite music.

The other way is to give esteem toward the person who did the housework.  We can express our esteem with words, a hug or even an invitation to their favorite restaurant.

In any case it’s best to do or say something to express our esteem for housework.  This way even an unpaid work like housework receives esteem and the ones doing it are motivated to keep doing it.

What kind of esteem would you give to yourself or to someone else for having done the housework?


International Day of Families


The theme of this year’s International Day of Families is Mothers and Families: Challenges in a Changing World following last year’s theme of Fathers and Families: Responsibilities and Challenges.

Even though the world is changing rapidly and in unpredictable ways families still remain the core of social life.

Mothers play an important role for the family as a powerful force for social cohesion and integration.

As the message of UN Secretary-General Ban Ki Moon says: “By rewarding the efforts of the mothers and enhancing their living conditions we can secure a better future for all”.

Today we give esteem toward mothers by acknowledging their importance for all of us.


Women’s World Awards as sign of esteem

Tomorrow is the International Women’s Day.  Prior to this international day of celebrating women, the Women’s World Awards cast light on women who have had a positive impact on our world.

The fourth Women’s World Awards took place yesterday in Vienna, Austria.  These awards help to highlight and reward the achievements of women and encourage others.

Among the winners are the American singers Anastacia and Kelly Clarkson for their outstanding artistic accomplishments as well as the 10-year-old Nujood Ali who successfully went to court to divorce her 30-year-old husband whom she was forced to marry.

Awards are one of the most public signs for esteem.  They remind us of esteem in general and its place in our lives.  Awards makes us also realize that esteem isn’t bound to publicity.  We can give esteem anytime.


Esteem rejoices in the truth

Can we agree to define truth as opposite of injustice? 

Perhaps it becomes more clear when we try to express it with other words such as sincerity, veracity, integrity and justness.

There is no question that esteem and truth are closely connected with each other.  Each helper word we used to explain truth we can use also to express esteem.

Often we distinguish between esteem as reward and genuine esteem.  Esteem as reward seems to be superficial and non-durable.  This kind of “esteem” can sometimes cooperate with injustice.

Genuine esteem on the other hand brings truth with it, shows reliability and empathy.

When we experience truth in our life we rejoice in it because we are connected to genuine esteem – for others and for us.

Esteem doesn’t delight in the wrong

It’s safe to say that nobody with ethical feelings can really delight in injustice.

Too often people don’t experience esteem in their lives.  As long as we have to fight in order to get esteem we will experience over and over that others get esteem unjustifiably.

Why unjustifiably?  When esteem is given only under certain conditions it misses its real meaning.  Then it’s no longer esteem but material reward bound to a certain cause.  Losing the cause means losing the reward.  On the other hand it means that people without the required condition don’t get esteem.

This situation creates injustice and feelings of anger.  Anger, on the other hand, can make people delight in the suffering of others, which creates another injustice.

Esteem escapes this circle of bad feelings.  When we give esteem freely without any preconditions we get it the same way and we won’t have any reason to delight in injustice.

The experience of genuine esteem liberates us in an all-inclusive way.  It changes our anger reaction into understanding and the urge to be even more focused on esteem.  Knowing that esteem can break through negative circles like this pushes us toward a life full of esteem.