Many people find themselves struggling with addiction.
Very often people only realize their addictions when they discover that they can’t live without it.
When addictions appear in our lives the deeper reason is often our craving for esteem and happiness.
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Attitude specialist Janice Davies has created the annual international Self Esteem Day recently renamed Selfday, to be celebrated on June the 26th. As the president of International Council of Self Esteem says, the event is spreading to 140 countries around the world.
Selfday aims to inspire the practice of self belief and confidence globally. The charitable non-profit organization is dedicated to create awareness and motivate action to help enhance human effectiveness and to build healthy self confidence.
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Embarrassment can happen anytime. All of us have experienced this feeling at least once in our lives. Some people deal so easily with embarrassing moments that we wonder how they do it.
How much we take embarrassing moments to heart depends on our self-confidence.
A strong self-confidence tells us that we shouldn’t take life and ourselves too seriously. When it’s not important what other people think of us we don’t take embarrassing moments so hard.
Having a strong self-confidence means having a strong self-esteem. We don’t need to compare ourselves to find out who we are and how good we are. A strong self-esteem means we don’t get upset by embarrassing moments.
Giving children esteem is a very thankful act because it boosts their self-confidence and opens them up to their talents. KidStar is one of numerous programs that gives children esteem and helps them to find their unique talents.
KidStar is a federally certified non-profit program giving children the opportunity to run their own radio stations within their schools.
Already over 3,000 students have participated in this program. Since the stations are web-based they can broadcast not only in the school area but around the country and even around the globe.
It’s a great opportunity for 5th and 6th graders to discover how a real radio station might work and to discover their own creativity and talent.
KidStar is a great program giving esteem toward children.
In a world where the most outgoing people seem to get the most attention shyness could be considered an undesirable trait. Some people even make the connection between shyness and low self-esteem.
In time we come to learn this isn’t necessarily true. There are shy people and there are outgoing people, and shyness doesn’t necessarily mean low self-esteem.
It’s okay to have a shy personality. These people should stay as they are, because it’s an expression of their own personality. Shyness can be compatible with a high self-esteem.
Shyness can on the other hand originate from bad life experiences or low self-confidence. In these cases, shyness is not considered a positive part of the personality.
Developing a high self-esteem can lead one to overcome this kind of shyness.
A high self-esteem based on self-confidence and respect toward others enables us to be masters of our relationships.
What does this mean to be the master of our relationships?
These are the two characteristics of it.
It means on one hand that we are in control of our relationships. This means we are self-confident enough to decide how close a relationship should be.
On the other hand it means that we consciously create the kind of relationships we want. We are capable of weighing the importance of our relationships.
“I’m the master of my relationship” doesn’t mean dominating over others. A high self-esteem leads us toward the respectful relationships we wish to maintain.
Frequently we read about the inexplicably positive impact of humor or good mood on our health.
German medical researchers of the Society of Palliative Medicine found that feelings of happiness and self-confidence have a positive impact on healing processes and on health in general.
Esteem is another boost for our body’s self-healing strength.
When we receive esteem we feel happy. Happiness creates inner balance which is the best basis for health.
When we give esteem we feel happy. Acknowledging others with genuine empathy creates self-confidence which is another booster for health. There is no doubt that lived esteem can strengthen our health.
The next time you smile at somebody or you acknowledge a person you can remember that you just created health-promoting moments for yourself and for the others.
Group pressure is something each of us experience at least once in our life. The time in life when group pressure is most significant is during our teenage years.
Succumbing to group pressure is a negative expression of wanting to be accepted by a group. This is a very social and natural drive in us. How can we handle group pressure without losing our unique identity?
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It seems like today there is no area of life free of competition, rankings or ratings. Whether it’s sports, art, education, a job or even a family gathering. At this time of the year, one of the best examples of rankings center place in culture is American Idol.
Rankings work by comparison. Who is smarter, more skillful or just better – we compare others ceaselessly.
For ourselves, rankings mean making outer judgments which can hurt our self-esteem.
When we want to keep our self-esteem strong we can develop a serene and calm attitude toward rankings.
Realizing that all rankings and all judgements made through comparisons are just outer views we understand that none of them can embrace our whole personality.
With our self-knowledge and self-confidence we can be indifferent to rankings because we know that they don’t touch our real self.
The word “self-handicapping” was first used in psychological studies 30 years ago. It describes a certain attitude of how people handle failures.
Self-handicapping is about cheating ourselves. When facing failure people can make all kinds of excuses without acknowledging that they could have done more to achieve success.
Self-handicapping means that people defend themselves by talking about all the reasons why they couldn’t possibly succeed.
A high self-esteem doesn’t know this self-handicapping attitude. With a high self-esteem we don’t need to defend our failure because we have enough self-confidence to know that we did our best.
We don’t need to find excuses when something doesn’t work out as we thought. Our self-esteem, based on self-knowledge, gives us confidence and calmness.
For a person with a healthy self-esteem failure never means loss of esteem because giving ourselves esteem always means having strength to face new goals and new efforts toward success.