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Self-esteem and the inner monologue

Eckart Tolle Stillness speaksPeople can speak nonstop for hours – with themselves.  They speak with themselves even when they are working, engaged in athletics or just playing around.  There is almost no moment without this inner monologue.

Sometimes they become aware of their inner voice and listen to its endless stream of words.  Most often though they unconsciously turn daily problems over and over in their mind.

Are these inner monologues known to you?

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An esteemful personality: Charlie Chaplin

Charlie ChaplinCharlie Chaplin may have been the ultimate cinematic comedian.  In the last three quarters of a century his work lifted the spirits of countless people around the world.

But Chaplin was more than just a clown.   His words were thoughtful and genuine and worth listening to.  He used the medium of film to speak about important human topics.

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When the wind of change blows …

Change by Jeffrey A. KottlerThere is an ancient Chinese proverb that goes: “When the wind of change blows, some people build walls, others build windmills.”

Change can cause people to become frightened.  They want to stay with what’s known even when it’s rendered obsolete.

Life teaches us that the only constant is change.  We make changes all the time, some big and some small.  The big changes may be frightening because they mean that life will never be exactly the same.

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Are you a judgment-fearing person?

self-esteemI think every person is in a way or in some parts of their lives judgment-fearing. What does that mean?

It means that you are fearing what others are thinking about you. People with high self-esteem know that they are unique, that there is no way they could be compared to anybody else. Your uniqueness expresses itself also in the certainty that nobody outside yourself can really know who you are. It doesn’t matter to them what others think about them.

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Self-esteem means self-respect

self-respectSometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.

Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.

Self-esteem or self-respect means knowing that you are equal to every other being on the planet. You are unique as a very valuable personality. You can’t compare yourself to anybody else. There is no other person like you.

Exercise for your self-esteem

Penn State researchers found that people’s satisfaction with life was higher on days when they exercised more than usual. So extending your normal exercise routine by a few minutes may be the solution how to boost your self-esteem.

Satisfaction with life is just another expression why a high self-esteem is so important. Are you satisfied with your life? If not, this could be your solution.

“We found that people’s satisfaction with life was directly impacted by their daily physical activity,” said Jaclyn Maher, graduate student in kinesiology. “The findings reinforce the idea that physical activity is a health behavior with important consequences for daily well-being and should be considered when developing national policies to enhance satisfaction with life.”

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“Emerging adults are going through a lot of changes; they are leaving home for the first time and attending college or starting jobs,” said Maher. “As a result, their satisfaction with life can plummet.”

“Shifts in depression, anxiety and stress would be expected to influence a person’s satisfaction with life at any given point in time,” said David Conroy, professor of kinesiology. “In addition, fatigue can be a barrier to engaging in physical activity, and a high Body Mass Index associated with being overweight may cause a person to be less satisfied in a variety of ways.”

The researchers were able to determine that the amount of physical activity a person undertakes in a particular day directly influences his or her satisfaction with life. Specifically, the team found that by exercising just a little more than usual a person can significantly improve his or her satisfaction with life.

Creativity as self-esteem boost

There is no doubt that being creative can boost self-esteem. Unfortunately with the changes in the education system, many art programs are being cut from public schools.

Attendance Record, located in Austin TX, provides a safe space where students are encouraged to express themselves creatively through songwriting and art. They focus on building a community of learners where everyone involved can discover something unique about themselves.

Attendance RecordsAttendance Records is dedicated to bringing creativity back into schools by connecting teachers and students with local writers, artists and musicians. By providing students with the opportunity to design, write and produce their own album, students will build confidence skills that will result in discovering what makes them unique.

A great idea helping boost self-esteem in students.

Are self-esteem and narcissism the same?

Actually, no. There are huge differences between self-esteem and narcissism.

Self-esteem means realizing the true value of yourself. You can do that by knowing that your are special as special as everybody else. Not two people on the world are the same. Everybody is unique in his personality, in his talents and expressions. Having a healthy self-esteem means to acknowledge this fact. You know your value, your talents, your uniqueness in a very healthy way.

Narcissism on the other hand is all about praising oneself over just everything one does or says. Narcissism basically refers to the thought of being superior.

self-esteem and narcissism

Narcissism needs comparisons for its growth and competition to prove itself while self-esteem knows that comparisons are simply not possible and competitions are not necessary in order to find out one’s uniqueness.

Learn to tolerate your self-esteem

This might sound a little out there “Learn to tolerate your self-esteem”, but it actually nails it.

I recently read this post of Mike Bundrant and found that it’s one of the best about self-esteem I’ve read in a long time. This is what he essentially said. For more details click on the link.

Low self-esteem is usually due to a psychological attachment to being perceived in a negative light. By constantly seeing you in a negative light you learned a powerful lesson – that your existence is a negative.

The real problem though lies in the fact that as child you trusted the opinion of others and now you continue to trust the judgments of others. At this point, the black hole of negativity in your psyche is quite powerful and you may have a very difficult time shaking the emotional attachment to all the negativity.

self-esteemSo seeing this what can you do? The key is to realize that your tendency to do things that prove your low self-esteem are based on a false indoctrination, one that you continue to give yourself in the present.

One of the steps Mike Bundrant is speaking of is to learn to tolerate the self-esteem. Happiness and self-respect take some getting used to so that you can trust them. Patience and tolerance for success are the key points in order to create positive psychological attachments.

Facebook lowers self-esteem and well-being, new study found

I mean who is really surprised by this newest research about the impact of Facebook use on the self-esteem. In Europe the activities in Facebook are already declining, widely discussed in books, ebooks and articles.

A new study made by University Michigan social psychologist Ethan Kross, lead author of the article and a faculty associate at the U-M Institute for Social Research, confirms now that Facebook use predicts decline in happiness. Ethan Kross says: “On the surface, Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection. But rather than enhance well-being, we found that Facebook use predicts the opposite result—it undermines it.”

The study found that the more people used Facebook during one time period, the worse they subsequently felt. People were asked to rate their level of life satisfaction at the start and end of the study. They found that the more participants used Facebook, the more their life satisfaction levels declined over time.

social peopleIn order to find that it’s the Facebook use that actually lowers people’s self-esteem it is important to hear that the researchers found no evidence that interacting directly with other people via phone or face-to-face influenced well-being negatively. Instead, they found that direct interactions with other people led people to feel better over time.

The researchers hope to conduct additional research with participants from a variety of age groups to examine these results and the psychological mechanisms more closely.