Sometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.
Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.
Self-esteem or self-respect means knowing that you are equal to every other being on the planet. You are unique as a very valuable personality. You can’t compare yourself to anybody else. There is no other person like you.
This might sound a little out there “Learn to tolerate your self-esteem”, but it actually nails it.
I recently read this post of Mike Bundrant and found that it’s one of the best about self-esteem I’ve read in a long time. This is what he essentially said. For more details click on the link.
Low self-esteem is usually due to a psychological attachment to being perceived in a negative light. By constantly seeing you in a negative light you learned a powerful lesson – that your existence is a negative.
The real problem though lies in the fact that as child you trusted the opinion of others and now you continue to trust the judgments of others. At this point, the black hole of negativity in your psyche is quite powerful and you may have a very difficult time shaking the emotional attachment to all the negativity.
So seeing this what can you do? The key is to realize that your tendency to do things that prove your low self-esteem are based on a false indoctrination, one that you continue to give yourself in the present.
One of the steps Mike Bundrant is speaking of is to learn to tolerate the self-esteem. Happiness and self-respect take some getting used to so that you can trust them. Patience and tolerance for success are the key points in order to create positive psychological attachments.
It started as a Tent City founded for homeless people and grew into a permanent neighborhood called Dignity Village. After conducting elections, Dignity Village even has their own administrative and legislative branches of government. The name tells it all: Dignity Village is a place that gives dignity back to people who’ve lost their jobs and homes – which sadly has become a national crisis.
The small houses are primarily built by the villagers. Building their own small houses in Dignity Village also means building self-respect through the knowledge that they can still accomplish good things for themselves. Organizing an entire village with all kinds of activities and responsibilities is an even stronger means toward building a high self-esteem.
Dignity Village is an incredibly strong sign of lived esteem. People who feel they’ve lost all esteem in our society just because they lost job and home can experience an esteemful life. Actions like Dignity Village are necessary to give hope and esteem to those who’ve lost so much.
It’s so easy to say that a high self-esteem shows that we respect ourselves. But what exactly does self-respect mean? Is there a way to develop self-respect in a healthy way?
There’s a simple step we can take to find out what self-respect means for us personally. Sometimes it takes looking at how we give respect.
Try to think of life moments when you offered respect in a positive way. What were these moments? What was it that touched you deeply enough to make you feel respect toward someone? As soon as you find out what evokes respect from within, you’ll know that adapting this same attitude will help develop your own self-respect.
Many people feel respect when they witness an unselfish act – such as helping without self-interest. When we embrace this attitude by doing the same we create self-respect.