We often hear the expression that Out of crisis comes opportunity, but in hard times it’s sometimes difficult to find the truth in this saying.
When we’re already integrating esteem into our daily life we can see this truth emerging out of life experiences. The more we live an esteemful life filled with understanding and patience the more we can go through hard times with a smile on our face.
Giving esteem to other people makes us aware of the preciousness of each moment in life. We experience daily how a given smile creates a smile back. Knowing this power of esteem we’re able to see the “opportunity created by crisis”. Esteem creates esteem – and this creates openness toward new paths and new opportunity.
Sometimes speaking about self-esteem is easier when we add humor.
Humor allows us to laugh at ourselves in a way that helps our self-esteem to stay healthy. With humor we can go through life’s difficult situations more easily. Having humor doesn’t mean we don’t take life seriously. On the contrary, humor looks at life in its most genuine essence and enables us to recognize deepest truths about ourselves.
We connect esteem strongly with understanding, open-mindedness and most of all trust. These traits motivate esteem to go on without stopping. Esteem can’t stop by default. There is no possible reason for esteem to stop ever. On the contrary, esteem is the one attitude which continues on against all doubt.
Esteem comes from a higher level because it’s based on genuine interest for our fellow men. Genuine esteem makes us trustful and broad-minded giving others another chance again and again.
Esteem aims at people’s most inner core, the place where we are truly ourselves, where no outer judgment can touch us. Esteem reaches us exactly there. Esteem isn’t given because we did something for it. We get esteem because we deserve it just by being here and now.
Realizing this truth of esteem allows us to see that there will be never a moment that causes esteem to stop. Esteem never stops.
Wisdom is more than knowledge, it’s more than accumulating know-how. Wisdom is life experience making us patient and understanding – just like esteem does.
Greek philosopher Plato explained wisdom as “we know that we don’t know” meaning that there is no safe knowledge which we could defend. When we live esteem toward others we feel the truth of this virtue. Esteem prevents us from being self-opinionated.
On the other hand wisdom is explained as choosing the middle between two extremes creating harmony and peace.
In any case the virtue of wisdom helps us to make just and reasonable decisions because we show understanding for people and life situations. The more we live esteem in our life the more we can integrate wisdom.
Can we agree to define truth as opposite of injustice?
Perhaps it becomes more clear when we try to express it with other words such as sincerity, veracity, integrity and justness.
There is no question that esteem and truth are closely connected with each other. Each helper word we used to explain truth we can use also to express esteem.
Often we distinguish between esteem as reward and genuine esteem. Esteem as reward seems to be superficial and non-durable. This kind of “esteem” can sometimes cooperate with injustice.
Genuine esteem on the other hand brings truth with it, shows reliability and empathy.
When we experience truth in our life we rejoice in it because we are connected to genuine esteem – for others and for us.
In 1943 the psychologist Abraham Maslow wrote the article “A Theory of Human Motivation” where he described his pyramid of hierarchy of needs.
According to Maslow human beings are motivated by unsatisfied needs and they have to satisfy lower needs before they can act unselfishly.
The lowest needs are the physiological – such as food and sleep. Next are safety needs such as living in a safe area. Then social needs such as friendships. Lastly are esteem needs such as self-respect and attention. After satisfying all these needs people can achieve self-actualization such as truth and wisdom.
According to Maslow enlightened persons living a very simple and unsafe life can’t achieve wisdom and truth.
We can have safety but without esteem the satisfying of this need remains empty. A life struggling with basic needs but filled with esteem and self-esteem achieves easily wisdom and truth.
Esteem is interweaving our whole life.
You might think that giving esteem toward other people means that you can’t express your critical thoughts or your opinion about the person or an action.
Genuine esteem is always expressed with truth and honesty and at the same time with understanding and patience.
Criticism itself can be expressed in two ways. One is negative and therefore destructive, it doesn’t show understanding and can’t inspire. The other way is positive and constructive, it helps in recognizing foibles and strengths in a supporting and growing way.
Esteem uses positive criticism knowing that each person wants to grow and to develop himself. We all want to be better in what we like to do. Positive criticism helps us in our development by giving ourselves or by getting it through other people with genuine esteem.