It means that you are fearing what others are thinking about you. People with high self-esteem know that they are unique, that there is no way they could be compared to anybody else. Your uniqueness expresses itself also in the certainty that nobody outside yourself can really know who you are. It doesn’t matter to them what others think about them.
Sometimes it’s difficult to explain what self-esteem means because the word “esteem” is rarely used as a daily word. Esteem has the same con-notion as respect. So self-esteem is the same as self-respect.
Self-respect means that you believe in your own integrity, in your own worth and dignity. The same definition you can give to self-esteem. Esteem means nothing else than integrity, worth and dignity.
Self-esteem or self-respect means knowing that you are equal to every other being on the planet. You are unique as a very valuable personality. You can’t compare yourself to anybody else. There is no other person like you.
Actually, no. There are huge differences between self-esteem and narcissism.
Self-esteem means realizing the true value of yourself. You can do that by knowing that your are special as special as everybody else. Not two people on the world are the same. Everybody is unique in his personality, in his talents and expressions. Having a healthy self-esteem means to acknowledge this fact. You know your value, your talents, your uniqueness in a very healthy way.
Narcissism on the other hand is all about praising oneself over just everything one does or says. Narcissism basically refers to the thought of being superior.
Narcissism needs comparisons for its growth and competition to prove itself while self-esteem knows that comparisons are simply not possible and competitions are not necessary in order to find out one’s uniqueness.
Over 6,650,000,000 people live on our planet earth. One of these 6.65 billion people is you and another one is me. Each of us has his own history, his own past, his own experiences.
Even if we had participated in the same event we’d have different memories of it. Even if we had learned together the same school lessons we’d have different knowledge about it. Each of us has his own psychic and physical pattern with our own likes and dislikes and with our matchless talents.
Each of us is a unique, inimitable personality. And this is what esteem is about: giving each of us esteem just for being in our own kind unique.